It’s tragic, but true, that the first baby often sinks a marriage. You’d think that it would be the other way around, that a baby would draw a husband and wife closer together. However, there are very good reasons why children in general, and babies in particular, tend to make marriages worse, not better.
It has to do with problem solving skills. Prior to the first arrival, a couple’s ability to resolve conflicts is not really put to the test. Peace and order usually reign in marriages before children arrive. There may be conflicts, but they are few and relatively easy to resolve. After the first child arrives, a couple is faced with conflicts they’ve never seen before, and they often do not have easy answers.